Marriage is considered a sacred and blessed institution in Islam. Following the teachings and practices of Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) it is encouraged to conduct marriages by the Sunnah. We will discuss the steps and guidelines on how to get married in Islam according to the Sunnah derived from the Quran and Hadith.
The Nikah Ceremony
The Nikah or marriage contract forms the foundation of a marriage. It is a covenant that establishes a spiritual bond between the husband and wife.
According to the Sunnah, it is recommended to perform the Nikah in a Mosque with simplicity while having relatives present. Both families can also extend their generosity by feeding those in need or any traveler passing by.
The Messenger of Allah said: “Publicize this marriage, and hold it in the Masjid…”Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1089
The focus should be on simplicity rather than spending months on preparations like printing cards collecting dowry preparing gifts or organizing extravagant Walima parties. By following this approach we align with Prophet Muhammad’s (ﷺ) emphasis on simplicity in marriages.
Choosing a Spouse
The process of selecting a spouse also adheres to guidance from the Sunnah. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) once advised that there are four reasons to marry a woman; her property, her status, her beauty and her religion. It is highly recommended to prioritize finding a partner who’s religious. May you be blessed in your search for a spouse.
This Hadith emphasizes the significance of giving priority to commitment when searching for a life partner.
The Marriage Sermon
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) established a tradition (Sunnah) of delivering a marriage sermon during the gathering to solemnize the union. This practice serves as a reminder of the nature of bonds and the responsibilities that accompany them.
The sermon typically includes advice, supplications, and words of wisdom for the married couple stressing the importance of respect, kindness, and fulfilling each other’s rights.
The Walima or wedding feast is a Sunnah practice highly encouraged in Islam. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said;
“The worst of food is food of a wedding feast to which the rich are invited and the poor are not. Whoever does not accept an invitation has disobeyed Allah and His Messenger.’ ”Sunan Ibn Majah 1913
This Hadith talks about inclusivity and generosity in organizing the wedding feast. It is recommended to hold a Walima to announce and celebrate the marriage while inviting both individuals and those fortunate to participate in this joyous occasion.
The Marriage Agreement
The marriage agreement also known as Nikah is an aspect of an Islamic marriage. It necessitates the presence of two witnesses, the mahr (marital gift) given by the groom to his bride and the khutbah (sermon) of Nikah that unites the couple in Allah’s name.
The mahr holds value in the marriage contract and it is considered a right of the wife. It can be paid immediately or deferred based on agreement.
To summarize, adhering to the Sunnah when getting involved directly conducting Nikah gives importance to religious commitment while selecting a partner announcing and celebrating the marriage through Walima (marriage feast), and fulfilling all requirements of the marriage contract.
By following these practices inspired by Prophet Muhammad’s teachings (peace be upon him) Muslims can establish their bond with faith, simplicity, and generosity.