As salaam Alaykum to all my brothers and sisters in Islam. Today we want to discuss a topic that’s close to our hearts. How to calm an angry mother in Islam. We have all been in situations where our mothers are upset and it can be challenging to understand the reasons behind their frustrations.
During these moments we need to turn towards our faith and seek guidance on how to face these situations with kindness and love. Below are ways on how to calm an angry mother in Islam:
Understand Why Your Mother Is Angry
In Islam we are encouraged to seek knowledge and understanding when it comes to emotions within our families.
Like any human being your mother may experience a range of emotions based on her circumstances, concerns on daily struggles.
The first step towards calming her anger is by empathizing with her and acknowledging that her feelings are valid. Take some time to reflect on the situation that triggered her anger, was it an incident or series of events that has accumulated?
Islam teaches us that Allah has granted us the ability to experience emotions and recognizing this helps us appreciate the complexities of being human.
Your mother’s frustration could arise from caring about your welfare having concerns about the family or dealing with challenges that she might not have spoken openly.
When trying to comprehend why your mother is angry it’s important to remember that everyone is different.
What might provoke emotions in one person may not necessarily have an impact on another. By listening to her concerns and feelings you can gain insights into the underlying reasons for her anger.
Be Patient with Your Mother
Having patience goes beyond enduring trials; it is a virtue that involves staying composed and steadfast in the face of challenges.
In the Quran, Allah points out the importance of patience assuring believers that there will be rewards, for those who remain patient.
We will certainly test you with a touch of fear and famine and loss of property, life, and crops. Give good news to those who are patient.Surah Al Baqarah (2:155)
When dealing with a mother demonstrating patience means controlling your emotions and reactions. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) showed patience in times setting a timeless example for us to follow.
While trying to calm your mother down make sure you approach the situation with patience and a clear mind. Do not react defensively, rather take a moment to breathe and gather your thoughts.
O believers! Patiently endure, persevere, stand on guard, and be mindful of Allah, so you may be successful.Surah Al Imran (3:200)
This verse above emphasizes the importance of perseverance, endurance, and maintaining a sense of fear, for Allah to achieve success.
When your mother expresses anger towards you it could be seen as a test from Allah and It provides an opportunity for you to showcase patience.
Listen to Your Mother
Listening actively is an aspect of communication and plays a vital role in consoling an angry mother in Islam. While focusing on our daily lives it’s easy to overlook the significance of hearing and understanding the worries and emotions of our loved ones.
Allah encourages believers to approach their parents with humility and compassion as mentioned in Surah Al Isra (17:24);
And be humble with them out of mercy, and pray, “My Lord! Be merciful to them as they raised me when I was young.”Surah Al Isra (17:24)
This verse emphasizes the importance of expressing humility when dealing with our parents particularly when they’re upset.
Active listening goes beyond hearing words; it entails making an effort to comprehend the emotions and sentiments underlying the message.
When your mother shares her concerns or frustrations attempt to give her your attention. Set aside any distractions like devices or other tasks. Focus solely on what she is saying.
Maintain eye contact and use cues to demonstrate your attentiveness. This demonstrates respect for her feelings while creating an environment of open and honest communication.
Avoid interrupting her and allow your mother to express herself fully. Sometimes expressing our thoughts and emotions can bring a sense of relief and your willingness to listen with care shows that you truly empathize and comprehend.
Asking for Your Mother’s Forgiveness
Seeking forgiveness is very important in Islam especially when it comes to calming an upset mother. In Islam it is important to acknowledge our mistakes take responsibility for them and seek forgiveness to maintain relationships within the family.
When you realize that your actions may have contributed to your mother’s distress it is crucial to approach her with sincerity and humility.
Islam emphasizes the concept of “Taubah” or repentance encouraging believers to turn to Allah with a heart.
Say, ˹O Prophet, that Allah says,˺ “O My servants who have exceeded the limits against their souls! Do not lose hope in Allah’s mercy, for Allah certainly forgives all sins. He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.Surah Al Zumar (39:53)
To seek forgiveness from your mother effectively start by acknowledging the words or actions that may have hurt or upset her, and express regret.
Show remorse for any pain you might have caused. Islam encourages believers to approach seeking forgiveness with humility and a commitment to change.
When asking for forgiveness take full responsibility for your actions and avoid making excuses or shifting blame as this goes against the principles of Islam.
Perform an Act of Kindness and Shower Her with Love
Engaging in acts of kindness can have an impact on relieving tension especially when dealing with an angry mother in Islam.
Kindness and benevolence hold importance in Islam. Integrating these principles into our actions can significantly improve our relationship with our mothers.
Acts of kindness speak louder than words. Consider taking up some of your mother’s responsibilities during moments when she may feel overwhelmed.
Offer to help with household chores run errands or tackle tasks that may be causing her stress. It is worth noting that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) himself actively participated in household chores and showed care towards his family.
Express your love and appreciation through gestures like preparing her meal surprising her with a heartfelt note or simply spending quality time together.
Remember that acts of kindness not only address concerns but also contribute to building a foundation of love and respect within the family.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) emphasized the significance of treating parents by stating, “Paradise lies at the feet of your mother.”
It was narrated from Mu’awiyah bin Jahimah As-Sulami, that Jahimah came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said:
“O Messenger of Allah! I want to go out and fight (in Jihad) and I have come to ask your advice.” He said: “Do you have a mother?” He said: “Yes.” He said: “Then stay with her, for Paradise is beneath her feet.”Sunan an-Nasa’i 3104
Pray to Allah for Guidance
When faced with a situation where your mother is feeling upset turning to Allah in prayer can bring comfort and strength.
Making supplications (dua) is an act of humility that acknowledges our dependence on Allah in every aspect of our lives. When trying to calm a mother begin your prayer by expressing gratitude and praise for Allah.
Show appreciation for the blessing of having a mother and recognize that her well being and happiness are crucial for a family life.
In your supplication ask Allah for guidance in understanding to address your mother’s concerns. Seek Allah’s help in maintaining patience and wisdom during your interactions.